The lies generated by a sociopath are pathological by nature. A pathological liar can often be distinguished from an occasional liar by the shear volume of lies. This particular behavior appears to be driven by both obsession and compulsion. He has a compulsion to fool you. He is obsessed with seeing if he can. Because of this, even the simplest conversation will be studded with lies, half-truths, and misdirection. All of life becomes a game to see if he can fool you. Fortunately, the brazen lying often becomes bizarre. When it does that, it’s easier to catch him in those lies. When he is caught in enough lies, the diagnosis becomes clear. When the diagnosis becomes clear, action can be taken. It must be taken, else he takes your self-respect and leaves you naked.
Within the sociopath’s web of lies most often is a little truth, put there on purpose to hide the bigger lie. It may be something as inconsequential as the right day of the week or a time that can be checked. It’s only there to add confusion, to make us jump to the idea that if any truth is there, he can’t be telling lies. It is only a smoke screen, there to confuse us so the predator can continue his stalking uninterrupted and unobserved.
The sociopath uses lies to find more victims. Lying is often a fishing process, targeting the soft hearted. He gets his victims’ cooperation with his smiling lies. But he goes too far. He reaches a point where his response to questioning leaves you unsatisfied, confused, weary of his false front. The oft-told lie wears thin and is seen for what it is. It is here you must not turn away. It is at this point where questioning must bombard him until he slips and gives himself away. To pull away, to turn the other cheek, would only give the predator a free pass for bigger impropriety. When you reach this point, get away. Protect yourself. Put distance between the predator and his pawn. And perhaps the hardest thing of all, get the authorities involved. It has been your often thankless job to discover his indecency. It has been a dark and lonely job. Turn the evidence over to the police. Let society shine the bright light of truth on what has happened. And thank the Lord you finally got away.